Becoming a better lover is not an easy task, it requires time and effort and above all communication. Nobody is born with the knowledge to please every woman, although sometimes it sure seems that some guys were.
Becoming a better lover requires commitment and time, here I will show you a few tricks to help you along. However, I will only be focusing on one aspect of sexuality, the hands.
There are a wide variety of ways that you can ‘man handle’ your woman so that she’ll be begging for more. But you always need to keep in mind that for every woman there is a different preference in how she likes to be touched and what really gets her going.
An important thing to remember is that the brain truly is the body’s largest sex organ, so in order to ‘prep’ her vagina you’re first going to have to make her mentally ready. This is due to the fact that if she isn’t producing any lubricant of her own then any serious activity down there could be quite uncomfortable, even downright painful. So before you start right in on the pleasing make sure she’s ready, take your time, communicate, there’s no hurry.
There’s one more thing I would like to bring up before I share a couple great techniques with you on how to finger a girl. As I already mentioned, all women have different preferences for what they enjoy sexually. Some women can have a full orgasm solely from g-spot stimulation, with no clitoral attention at all. Other women can’t reach orgasm without at least some clitoral stimulation. And as unfortunate as it is, some women can’t reach orgasm at all, no matter the stimulation and time. But to improve her chances make sure you keep the lines of communication open and pay attention to her reaction.
What I’ll show you here are just guidelines, to be amended as the situation and the woman’s preferences dictate.
1) The Straight and Narrow
This is a very simple technique for fingering a woman, and requires that you are sitting between her legs while she is seated or lying on her back, you can also sit to one side.
This technique can vary slightly depending on how she likes it. You take the number of fingers she prefers, or just start at one and move up slowly, and insert it into her vagina. Then move your finger in and out at a speed she likes. During this activity you can either keep your fingers straight or curl them up slightly to get stronger friction on her g-spot. Some women enjoy a fair amount of pressure on their g-spots as they are usually not as sensitive as the clit.
To take this move up a level you can incorporate your thumb into the mix by rubbing it against her clit as you move in and out. Just remember that tempo is critical and only do what you can without losing focus, if providing clitoral stimulation with your thumb is too much at first then don’t do it, wait until you get adept and keeping a rhythm at various speeds.
2) Two is Better Than One
This is a very strong technique but requires a bit more left/right hand coordination than most other techniques. You start by placing yourself between the girls legs while she is lying on her back or leaning back in a chair, you can also sit to one side or the other if that’s more suitable or more comfortable for you.
With one hand you move one or more fingers in a thrusting motion inside her vagina and with your other hand you rub your index and middle fingers in a circular motion around her clitoris. Rhythm is key here so to be able to more easily do this without losing your even tempo you might want to try starting with only one hand or the other and when you’re in the groove slowly add the second hand.
Even though each hand needs to keep its own rhythm, nobody says both hands need to follow the same beat. Make one hand fast and the other slow and mix it up a bit and ask her what she likes the best.
3) Using Fingering Sex Toys
There’s nothing wrong with looking outside the human body for a little help and variety in your manual stimulation. There are a few different main options that you have available to you.
The first option is aptly called a finger, or finger vibrator, these little guys fit over your fingertip, are made of rubber or silicone and usually have bumps or ticklers on them to up the stimulation level.
A second option is the world famous vibrating bullet. These are very commonly known for women using them to masturbate. But don’t think they can’t be used just as easily to please your partner, and to take it even further you can place the fingers mentioned above over the bullet!
My Final Word
There’s a lot of ways to pleasure your partner and a lot of ways for him/her to pleasure you! Don’t let yourself get caught in a rut, don’t limit yourself, don’t stop communicating, don’t stop practicing and it’s you that’ll be ‘that guy’ who’s a god in bed.
And don’t forget, some women don’t produce enough lube on their own and may need a little help through some water-based lubricant.