A new sexuality survey done in Australia has shown what most women know and men fear is that unattached ladies have far more success achieving orgasm than those with a partner.

The study found that 56 percent of women with no current lover, could reach orgasm every time with masturbation, compared with only 24 percent of women with lovers.

One suggestion, from sexologists discussing this study, was that self loving allows women to “better connect with themselves” and the use of vibrators allows more intense stimulation.

Many other studies have shown that only 30% of all women get an orgasm through sexual intercourse.

So what does this suggest to all the men out there that have issues making their lover come easily? And what is a technique to make a women orgasm?

Firstly, having the focus on making sure your lover orgasms from intercourse is asking for problems. Having goals in sex takes us out of the pleasure of the present and into the future. Most women are very sensitive to where a mans attention is during the sexual act.

If she feels he is pushing her or is not accepting her for what she is, she could close down. As a result, the man could get a lot less sex.

One solution to the issue of how to give a woman an orgasm is to make use of vibrators in your sex life. The man can make sure his lover has some mega orgasms after intercourse. One can also use vibrators during intercourse.

There is a lot of fear about using a vibrator. And this is around the notion of what is “normal sex”.

As a sexologist, I suggest to women to let go of the idea of only having orgasms from a lover during intercourse. Men need to let go of being the sexual stud and giving a woman her orgasm every time from intercourse.

Instead, couples can bring a variety of sex toys into the bedroom. They’ll have a lot more fun as sex becomes more playful.There are many types of vibrators available in many shapes and colors.

I use a vibrator that was first used by Betty Dobson who worked with preorgasmic women some years ago.

Using this type of vibrator, most women come in 10 seconds or so. This is my technique to make a woman orgasm in 10 seconds. For more information see Discover Better Orgasms today.

Maurice Tate is a qualified sexologist trained at the Advanced Institute of Sexology. To improve your sexual relating and to really explore how to turn on your lover which is a lot easier than you think, visit  About Sexuality and U. Great sex is your birthright!