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Augie and Merissa have been seeing one another for six years. They met while taking the same cultural anthropology class at a relatively small, country, Church affiliated liberal arts college located in the Southern part of the U.S. While they were mostly good buddies at first, they finally started to date when they were in their first year of college.

Since both of them came from very strict backgrounds, neither one of them drank very much beyond the experimental stage when they first began dating. As the time advanced, however, they started to go to more football bashes, happy hours, keg parties, and sorority and fraternity parties. As a consequence, they steadily began to drink more the longer they dated.

Their Social Life As a Rule Consisted of Going to Happy Hour With Their Friends, Going to Professional Sporting Events, Going to Parties With Their Friends, Going to Restaurants Three or Four Nights Per Week, and Going With Their Friends to the Local Nightspot on the Weekends

After they graduated from college, they both got jobs in a relatively large city located approximately sixty-five miles from their undergraduate college. Then they eventually made up their mind to move into the same apartment together.

Because they were far removed from the college drinking scene, then again, their social life usually consisted of going to restaurants three or four nights per week, going to parties with their friends, going to professional sporting events, going to happy hour with their friends, and going to the local nightclub with their buddies on the weekends. Simply put, Merissa and Augie started to drink in an excessive manner.

Now that they were living in the same apartment with one another and starting to get more committed to their relationship, nonetheless, they started to think about buying a house, having children, getting married, and becoming more responsible.

With any major change in an individual’s life there is regularly something that initiates the particular alteration in question. For Augie and Merissa the idea of buying a new house and having children was this “trigger.” In a word, for the first time in their lives, Augie and Merissa began to reflect on their irresponsible and hazardous drinking and the alcohol long term effects on their lives.

How Would Their Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking Affect Their Mental Health, Their Finances, Their Relationship With One Another, Their Ability to Have Children, and Their Relationship With Their Parents?

Would their abusive and heavy drinking unfavorably affect their ability to have children? How would they be able to continue spending a large percentage of their money on drinking if they were to begin saving for a new house? How accountable would they be if they had children and continued to drink in an excessive and abusive manner? How would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long term plans, hopes, and dreams while they still drank in an irresponsible and excessive manner while having fun as they did when they were in college? What would their irresponsible and heavy drinking do to their relationship? How would their excessive and irresponsible drinking affect their mental health?

From a different perspective, although neither one of them ever suffered from alcohol poisoning, received a DUI, or experienced alcohol withdrawal symptoms, they realized that their abusive and irresponsible drinking was becoming a problem that they could not close their eyes to any longer.

After Giving Their Situation Some Serious Thought, Augie and Merissa Finally Comprehended That Their Hopes, Dreams, and Plans Would not be Reached if They Continued Their Hazardous and Abusive Drinking

All of these queries without a doubt pointed to the same conclusion: Merissa and Augie needed to realize that they couldn’t continue their heavy and hazardous drinking if their dreams, plans, and hopes were to be fulfilled.

Once they arrived at this conclusion, they informed their drinking pals about their marital plans, about their goal of buying or building a new house, and about their plans to start a family. They also told their drinking pals that they still wanted to associate with them but that they would be drinking responsibly from this moment forward so that they could begin realizing their future goals, aspirations, and dreams.

Much to their wonder, all of their friends expressed relief because they too had been mulling over their lives and concluded that their life-styles were too centered around drinking. They also realized that they would have to change drastically if they were to become more mature and show more forethought for their careers, their health, and for their aspirations in the next twenty or twenty-five years.

After their frank chat with their buddies about their dreams, aspirations, and hopes, Augie and Merissa in effect started to have more meaningful relationships with all of their buddies. The primary reason for this was the fact that all of them had a similar state of mind regarding their excessive and abusive drinking and their relatively short and long-term aspirations, plans, and goals.